Building Connections: Essential Services for Aging LGBTQIA+ Californians
Getting older often changes the way we think about community, health, and support. For some older adults, aging can bring loneliness or uncertainty. Friends and family may live far away. Health needs may change. Daily tasks like preparing meals, getting to appointments, or managing a home can become more difficult over time. Findings from California’s first statewide survey of LGBTQIA+ older adults highlighted the importance of connection, community, and welcoming support systems as people age.
More than one in four respondents reported dissatisfaction with their social activities and relationships. Some respondents said they rarely received the emotional support they needed.
The survey also reflected something else: resilience. Today’s LGBTQIA+ older adults have built communities, cared for one another through decades of change, and helped create a more inclusive California. Friends, neighbors, partners, and chosen family often play a big role in how people care for one another and stay connected through different life stages. As people age, having people who make us feel comfortable being ourselves can become even more important.
Aging services can help people stay healthy, connected, and independent. The California Department of Aging works with local Area Agencies on Aging and community partners across the state to support older adults and family caregivers. Some services focus on everyday needs, like meal programs or referrals to local resources. Others create opportunities for people to connect and feel like part of a community.
Reliable transportation and caregiver support make it easier for people to remain independent and continue caring for the people they love. A group meal program, exercise class, or local senior center can help people build friendships and establish routines.
"Here at Avenidas, we got involved with the walking group," said Robin Barber, a volunteer and participant at Avenidas. "Every month we go do something interesting, fun. And that’s how we started getting to know people, making friends, basically starting to build community. Our goal in life right now is to find community because we’ve felt so out of it for such a long time."
California’s LGBTQIA+ older adult survey also found that many people want services and spaces where they feel comfortable, respected, and welcomed as they age. That sense of belonging can make a real difference when it comes to asking for help, participating in programs, or staying connected to others.
"I know there’s lots of people that are alone and don’t have family," said Eddie Green, another Avenidas volunteer and participant. "And with these programs I’ve seen people make family and find friends and even partners, so it’s working. I can’t put in words how grateful I am for having this opportunity and getting to be in a place where I can share a life and talk about it and give other people hope."
Mental and emotional well-being are also important parts of healthy aging. Staying socially connected, having people to talk to, and feeling a sense of belonging all contribute to overall health and quality of life. Friendship Line California, an emotional support warmline, is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It offers services in 8 languages for older adults and family caregivers who may need encouragement or someone to just listen.
Planning ahead can also help people feel more prepared for the future. That might mean talking with trusted friends or family about caregiving preferences, organizing important documents, or learning more about services available locally. These conversations aren’t just about planning for challenges. They’re also about maintaining independence and continuing to live life on one’s own terms.
Every person’s experience with aging is different. There is no single path, family structure, or definition of community. What matters most is having access to support and services that help people continue doing the things that matter to them.
Across California, programs and services are helping older adults stay active, healthy, connected, and engaged in their communities. Whether someone is looking for a meal program, caregiver support, transportation, social connection, or simply a place to start, free help is available. Find your local Area Agency on Aging by visiting the California Department of Aging website or calling 800-510-2020 to connect with services and support in your community.